Thank you for your question.<\/p>\n
I am sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis. Finding out you are HIV positive is a very emotional process and you and your partner will need time to come to terms with it.<\/p>\n
It is also clearly very difficult for your partner, and worrying about logic and HIV risk is unlikely to help.\u00a0I expect your partner is more focused on issues of trust as much as HIV, and the shock that he came so close to catching HIV may take much more than information about clinical risks.<\/p>\n
Your partner may benefit from talking these issues through with either a counsellor or health advisor, and this may be something that at some point you consider together.<\/p>\n
Some relationships survive an HIV diagnosis, and others don’t. This probably involves understanding and accepting the factors behind how you caught HIV and about your relationship beforehand.<\/p>\n
It is not surprising that your partner does not trust facts about risk of catching HIV as from the information you have included you can not explain how you caught HIV yourself – ie ‘one exposure to an HIV-negative person’.<\/p>\n
Safe sex can easily protect your partner in the future, and there is lots of information about this, but I do not think think this information in itself will help much until he decides that he wants to return to a sexual relationship first.<\/p>\n
If you get to this stage, the following links to earlier questions may help:<\/p>\n
Lower risk from oral sex<\/a><\/p>\n Lower risk if active partner<\/a><\/p>\n Lower risks if you are on treatment with an undetectable viral load<\/a><\/p>\n