So long as your partner always uses a condom when you are having anal sex, you will not catch HIV this way. You (or he) will need to check the condom is still in place while you are having sex. As you mention that you often bleed and he is not on treatment, it would seem sensible for him to check it is still in place before he cums if he usually comes when inside you.<\/p>\n
Condoms are very effective and efficient at stopping HIV. They are dependent on practical things though like checking they are in place and not using oil-based lube.<\/p>\n
There is only likely to be a risk from oral sex (from you sucking him) if you have cums in your mouth or gum problems. To reduce the risk of this, it has been advice for years, not to brush your teeth for a few hours before having oral sex. Mouthwash may not be a good idea either, but gum is fine if you want minty breath.<\/p>\n
You are right that all these risks are very low – there are lots of couple who have long relationships with partners of different HIV status without HIV transmissions, and these few cautions should protect you.<\/p>\n
For your own health, it might be worth finding out why you bleed so easily. A GUM clinic could give you a check up and go through this with you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
My boyfriend just tested positive and I tested negative. We both are also negative for other STI’s. The doctor told us he is in great health and does not require medication at this time. However our concern is since he is not taking any medication at the moment what is the risk of me contracting the virus? How can we minimize this? His viral load ranges in 6000-6500 copies. I don’t swallow or have sex without a condom however I tend to bleed and tear inside when I’m receiving anal sex but with a condom always. I know the virus is not easy to catch but would like a more specific scenario based on the information. Thank you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5427","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-all-topics","category-hiv-transmission"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5427","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5427"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5427\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":24851,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5427\/revisions\/24851"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5427"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5427"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5427"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}