{"id":580,"date":"2008-09-16T10:20:23","date_gmt":"2008-09-16T09:20:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.i-base.info\/qa\/?p=580"},"modified":"2024-10-14T09:17:49","modified_gmt":"2024-10-14T09:17:49","slug":"what-is-the-chance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/580","title":{"rendered":"What is the chance?"},"content":{"rendered":"

i-Base doesn’t answer individual questions about transmission. There is more information on testing and modes of transmission here<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I had unprotected sex (vaginal and oral) with another married person, a female (I’m a male), during the first week in August, 2008. We also open mouthed kiss.<\/p>\n

She has been married and\/or with only her husband for about 16-17 years. He had a history of cheating on her in the past. According to her, he hadn’t cheated on her in 5 years, but they still are sexually active with one another even though their marriage is a struggle. He supposedly used protection with his old ‘past girlfriends’.<\/p>\n

After we had sex (it was only this one time), I have been in a major panic brought on by guilt\/medical concerns. I felt like and still do that I’m ‘infested’. I explained to my mistress my concerns so she went out to get an HIV test and the results came back negative. I also got tested during the 3rd week in August (at a small clinic) for HIV and during the 4th week at a doctor’s office for a complete STD\/HIV check up. Everything at both places came back negative.<\/p>\n

I have been with and only with my wife for 14 years. We have been HIV-negative. Because of my guilt and concerns, I admitted to my wife about the affair. Before I admitted to my wife she did give me oral about a week after my possible exposure, but I didn’t ejaculate in her mouth (I don’t know if she swallowed my pre-cum). I also gave her oral twice. There has been no penis to vagina contact with my wife and I. Since I admitted to her of the affair we haven’t had any sex whatsoever.<\/p>\n

My mistress, who isn’t my mistress any longer, and I are reasonably healthy adults. She is in fact a little on the heavy side. She told me she never had any symptoms related to any STDs and\/or HIV. And neither have I. Looking back, I just don’t trust her husband. Suppose he had sex with someone within the last five years and that person was infected. Once again, my mistress tested negative.<\/p>\n

What are the numerical statistics\/chances of her husband having passed HIV to her and then her to me and then me to my wife.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,22,23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-580","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-all-topics","category-hiv-testing","category-hiv-transmission"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/580","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=580"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/580\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":24378,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/580\/revisions\/24378"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=580"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=580"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=580"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}