{"id":5925,"date":"2012-02-13T17:01:49","date_gmt":"2012-02-13T17:01:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/?p=5925"},"modified":"2024-10-14T09:18:47","modified_gmt":"2024-10-14T09:18:47","slug":"im-positive-and-my-wife-is-negative-how-do-i-cope-sexually","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/5925","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m negative and my wife is positive &#8211; how do I cope sexually?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There are plenty of couples who are in a similar situation to you and your wife. \u00a0Where one is partner positive and the other is negative it is called being &#8216;sero different&#8217;. \u00a0You can continue to have a good and healthy relationship for many years.<\/p>\n<p>Please can you also take a look at this page and the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/i-base.info\/guides\/testing\/risk-hiv-status\">information on sero different couples and risk<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It is advisable that you should use protection during sex. \u00a0This is because a very small amount of the virus is present in the vaginal fluids.<\/p>\n<p>HIV is not an easy virus to catch.\u00a0 The risk of catching HIV depends on several factors.\u00a0 Knowing these factors can help you to understand how HIV is transmitted and minimize the risks. \u00a0You can find all the\u00a0 information in this guide: <a href=\"https:\/\/i-base.info\/guides\/testing\">HIV testing and risks of sexual transmission<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Can I ask if your wife is on treatment at the moment?\u00a0 Being on treatment reduces the rate of transmission by 96% and with a good adherence; her viral load should be at &#8216;undetectable&#8217; level &#8211; below 50 copies.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, does your wife have any support at the moment?\u00a0 Getting support from your local support group or a counsellor can help her to come to terms living with HIV. She will also be able to gain and share experiences with others who are in the similar situation as her, rather than having to deal with it in isolation.\u00a0 You might find it helpful getting support for yourself and also as a couple too.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My wife is HIV positive, I am negative.  How do I cope sexually.  Should we just stop it all together? Every time I have a go (with or without a condom), I am scared.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,23,36],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5925","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-all-topics","category-hiv-transmission","category-sero-different-couples"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5925","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5925"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5925\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":24842,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5925\/revisions\/24842"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5925"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5925"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5925"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}