{"id":6997,"date":"2012-06-14T12:24:29","date_gmt":"2012-06-14T12:24:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/?p=6997"},"modified":"2012-08-28T15:50:55","modified_gmt":"2012-08-28T15:50:55","slug":"how-do-i-start-a-new-relationship-after-diagnosis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/6997","title":{"rendered":"How do I start a new relationship after diagnosis?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It&#8217;s great that you have had a good response to your treatment and are doing so well.<\/p>\n<p>In response to your question, I can appreciate that starting a new relationship can be challenging for many at times. Living with HIV and starting a new relationship after being married must have<br \/>\nit&#8217;s own challenges too. These include how and when to disclose your status and negotiating using condoms.<\/p>\n<p>However, the good news is that many people living with HIV continue to have fulfilling sexual relationships. Many of them are in sero-different relationships (where one partner is HIV positive and the other one is not).<\/p>\n<p>You mention that you have a A CD4 count of 1000. This is really good as it indicates that you have a strong immune system. Having an undetectable viral load is also good as you are less likely to transmit HIV to future partners. This is\u00a0 because studies have shown that being stable on treatment and having an undetectable viral load dramatically reduces the risk of passing HIV on to a negative partner.<\/p>\n<p>I am aware that it is not possible to cover many of the issues you may want to discuss in detail, in an email. A health advisor\u00a0 or counsellor at your clinic can help you talk through any additional questions you may have.<\/p>\n<p>Alternatively, as you are based in Ireland,\u00a0 a second option is to contact the Open Heart House. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.openhearthouse.ie\/\">Open Heart House are an organisation in Dublin who provide a range of services for people living with HIV<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>If however, you feel that you would prefer to speak to another  woman living with HIV, then please do call our helpline and I&#8217;ll be happy to talk to you. Our helpline\u00a0 number is 0808 800 6013. It&#8217;s open from Monday to Wednesday from 12.00 &#8211; 4.00pm and is free from UK landlines and most mobile phone<br \/>\nnetworks.<\/p>\n<p>Best wishes<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I was diagnosed on 4 December 1998.  I&#8217;ve been on treatment since the January as my viral load was of 250,000 and CD4 was way down.<\/p>\n<p>Now I&#8217;m doing great.  I am a 62 1\/2 year old female.  I&#8217;ve got lots of other issues, Bipolar, etc taking lots of meds and generally ache all over not constantly.<\/p>\n<p>Now, the thing is, I&#8217;ve left my husband who never got it, he got everything else I had though.<\/p>\n<p>Now a voice from the past has turned up.  I&#8217;ve had no viral load for at least 5 years and my CD4 is over 1000.<\/p>\n<p>I just don&#8217;t know how to approach it sex wise.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6997","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-all-topics"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6997","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6997"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6997\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6997"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6997"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/i-base.info\/qa\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6997"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}