Q and A


If a HIV negative man comes inside a HIV positive woman what are the risks to the man?

What is the risk if a negative man having sex with a positive woman uses a condom but then when the man is about to come he takes off the condom and he comes inside of the woman? Will the man be infected?


Thank you for your question.

There will always be a risk with any form of unprotected sex even if it the time that the sex is unprotected is short. However, the level of risk will vary depending on several factors such as whether the positive person is on treatment, their viral load, whether either person has any STIs or cuts etc.

I am assuming you are asking this question with regards to having a baby. If this is the case then there are several things that can be done to protect both partners and still conceive naturally. For more information please follow this link.

Information on this website is provided by treatment advocates and offered as a guide only. Decisions about your treatment should always be taken in consultation with your doctor.


  1. Hi,

    There is no reason related to HIV that you shouldn’t marry. There are many couples like yourselves where one partner is negative and the other is not. You can have sex safely. Eventually if you want to also have children who are HIV negative.

    You can find information about couples like yours and risk of transmission here:

  2. sunday

    I’m HIV negative and in love with a woman that is HIV positive, can I marry and live with her?

  3. Calvin

    I’m HIV negative but had unprotected sex with an HIV positive woman just once, after two days i began to feel fever with flu, then i started taken some antibiotics for two weeks but the symptoms still persist, does that means i have been infected? What next step can i take?

  4. In situations such as this you need to think of your health first. Unprotected sex could lead to further sexually transmitted infections or infection with a HIV strain that is resistant. If your partner knows your status then you should talk to him about getting tested for HIV and other STIs before you have unprotected sex again. If you are on treatment with a stable undetectable viral load for more than 6 months then the risk of you transmitting the virus to him through unprotected sex is very minimal. For more information please follow this link to read about the Swiss Statement. It is possible for you to have a baby without having to have unprotected sex if you do not want to. For more information please follow this link.

  5. Mary Jacqueline Apenina

    So what can I do as a positive woman with a negative man who takes off the condom when having sex? If the negative man refuses to wear a condom what do I do? I want a child also.

  6. Mary Jacqueline Apenina

    This is one of the best information sites I know regarding having sex with a negative man with a positive woman

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