Q and A


If a HIV negative man comes inside a HIV positive woman what are the risks to the man?

What is the risk if a negative man having sex with a positive woman uses a condom but then when the man is about to come he takes off the condom and he comes inside of the woman? Will the man be infected?


Thank you for your question.

There will always be a risk with any form of unprotected sex even if it the time that the sex is unprotected is short. However, the level of risk will vary depending on several factors such as whether the positive person is on treatment, their viral load, whether either person has any STIs or cuts etc.

I am assuming you are asking this question with regards to having a baby. If this is the case then there are several things that can be done to protect both partners and still conceive naturally. For more information please follow this link.

Information on this website is provided by treatment advocates and offered as a guide only. Decisions about your treatment should always be taken in consultation with your doctor.


  1. Lisa Thorley

    Hi Lucky,

    There’s no reason why you should be discouraged about your girlfriends status. This is because in reality the risk of transmission is close to zero. Also, it may be worth thinking about how she would feel if she knew you felt this about her. For a loved one to be, ‘discouraged’ could be difficult for the person who is positive to come to terms with. After all there is enough stigma associated with HIV.

    At i-base we always provide information about key HIV studies. When they come out they will be published on our site.

    Its good though that you’re interested .

  2. Lucky

    I have a HIV positive girlfriend and I love her very much. However, sometimes I’m discouraged by her status. Most of the time we use condoms, but on few occasions I see myself penetrating her without a condom and that worries me because every time I get sick I only think of those occasions were I did not use condom.

    However, after reading the PARTNER study it gives me hope and I would highly appreciate it if you could inform me of other studies in the future.

  3. Praveen

    Is it safe to give a woman cunnilingus when they are positive?

  4. Mustapha

    I’m having sex with a woman who is positive, we always use condoms, what will happen to me?

  5. Lisa Thorley

    Hi Njabulo,

    If a positive person is on treatment and their viral load is undetectable, the risk of transmission is close to zero. Please see the results of the PARTNER study for more info:


    Therefore, if you chose to, you can have sex without using condoms.

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