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Question

If a HIV negative man comes inside a HIV positive woman what are the risks to the man?

What is the risk if a negative man having sex with a positive woman uses a condom but then when the man is about to come he takes off the condom and he comes inside of the woman? Will the man be infected?

Answer

Thank you for your question.

Any risk is not related to whether or not you cum, but to other factors. These include how long the contact lasts (in this case maybe just a few seconds) so the risk will be very low.

If your partner is taking HIV treatment and has an undetectable viral load, then the risk will be zero, even if you don;t use condoms at all.

The biggest risk of transmission relates to viral load. When this is undetectable the risk becomes zero then transmission doesn’t occur.

Are you asking this question so your partner can become pregnant? If yes, the it is easy to  still conceive naturally, but better if your partner is on treatment.

This question was updated in January 2018 from an original answer posted in December 2010. i-Base no longer answers individual questions about HIV transmission and risk but please see: Question 1, 5, 6 and 9 at this link).

61 comments

  1. grace

    I am HIV positive and am on care for 6years now, but right now am scared for my life I feel like am dying inside I feel like I will die soon. please help me with tips to live healthily or things I can do to help my being.

  2. Simon Collins

    Hi Supa. If you start HIV treatment this will protect both your partner and the baby. Please see these two links for more infomation.
    http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy
    and
    https://i-base.info/qa-on-the-partner-study

  3. supa

    I am HIV positive and I would like to have a baby. my partner is negative and actually we have not had sex yet..is there a way that I can conceive without infecting him and can I really breastfeed the baby after delivery without transmission?

  4. Simon Collins

    Hi Monisha, I am sorry but I don’t understand your question. If you are worried about HIV you need to take a test to find this out.

  5. Monisha

    I had sex with my previous relationships nw m engaged nd sex with my husband..did hiv affect me due to previous relationship..bt in my previous relationship they dnt have hiv

  6. Roy Trevelion

    We no longer answer questions about transmission and testing. This information service is for people who are HIV positive, and it’s about HIV treatment.

    Most questions about transmission and testing have been answered here:
    https://i-base.info/qa/factsheets/hiv-transmission-and-testing

  7. twistamikeja

    I am negative but I am worried that I had sex with a positive girls

  8. Simon Collins
  9. Shuva

    if any man with HIV -ve came to sex with +ve woman and and when it’s time to come and he comes outside (not inside),will be infected???

  10. Robin Jakob

    Hi,

    You can find lots of information about HIV transmission and testing here:
    http://i-base.info/guides/testing