Question
Have I given him HIV?
15 April 2010. Related: All topics, HIV transmission.
I’m a male and HIV positive. I recently tested HIV positive. Before I knew I was positive I had un-protected sex with another male. He inserted his penis in me for a split second and then withdrew. He put on a condom then and continued with anal sex. I penetrated him also, but always had a condom on. I didn’t ejaculate. Is there a chance that I could have passed on the virus to him? He is going to get tested but has to wait a few weeks for an appointment.
Is it as likely that the virus can be transmitted from the passive partner to the active partner during anal sex, would it need more time than just one penetration that lasted for no longer than a few seconds? Is the virus transmittable during oral sex? He did give me oral sex and again I never ejaculated, could I have passed on the virus. I never seem to have pre-cum or at least obvious amounts. I know the only way to know for sure is if he gets tested but I’m concerned and the wait is killing me. Thanks.
Answer
Thank you for your question.
The likelihood of HIV transmission depends on many different things such as, whether you are on HIV treatment, if your viral load is undetectable, if either of you has a STIs or have had STIs such as herpes in the last 4 weeks and many other things. This makes it difficult to give you the definite answer you need. You are absolutely doing the right thing by encouraging your partner to take a HIV test.
The likelihood of transmission with such a short time of unprotected sex is low. I answered a similar question recently about the rate of transmission through unprotected oral sex which may be of use to you.
Good luck with the test and if you need any further information please feel free to contact us again or call the phoneline (Mon-Wed 12-4pm).
Thank you for your question.
If it is possible you have been exposed to HIV then you can take a course of Post-Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP). This is a short course of HIV medication. It will not guarantee you do not become infected but will lessen the chances. You can get it from any Accident and Emergency in the UK. It is free and the sooner you take it after exposure the better. If you have not started it until after 72 hours post exposure then it will no longer be effective.
For more information about PEP please follow this link.
Recently a condom broke or burst while I was engaged in sex and spent it took about 5 minutes before we noticed it. I am not sure about the partner’s status. I am HIV negative. If the partner is HIV positive do you think I might have contracted the virus. It only happened yesterday around 10pm (27/04/2010). What measures should I take to prevent the virus infecting me?
Regards
FRED