Question
I'm HIV negative and my girfriend's positive. Can we have a baby?
25 June 2012. Related: All topics, Pregnancy, Sero different couples.
I am dating a woman who is HIV positive and I love her with all my heart.
Now we want to start having kids.
What can I do, because I am HIV negative?
Answer
It is great that you love your girlfriend and plan to have children with her. Many sero-different couples (where one is HIV positive and the other is not), have had and continue to have healthy HIV negative babies.
There are a number of conception options available to a couple like you. These depend on a number of factors including whether your girlfriend is taking ARVs (antiretroviral treatment for HIV).
A simple method which protects you from catching HIV is the Do-It-Yourself articificial insemination. This is a method if self insemination using a plastic syringe. Around the time of ovulation, you put your sperms as high as possible into your girlfriend’s vagina.(Ovulation takes place in the middle of your girlfriend’s cycle, about 14 days before her period).
Different clinics may recommend different methods. One way is to have protected intercourse with a spermicide-free condom. Another is for you to ejaculate into a container. In both cases, you or your girlfriend can then insert the sperm into her vagina.
For more detailed information on the above and other options available to you, please follow this link to our guide to HIV, pregnancy and women’s health. The guide also answers a lot of general questions you and your girlfriend may have around HIV and pregnancy.
Good luck with your future plans.
Hi,
Many couples in your situation safely conceive and have HIV negative children.
You can find more information about conceiving when the woman is positive here:
http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy/woman-hiv-positive
And more general information about HIV and pregnancy here:
http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy
I’m HIV positive and my husband is negative. We need a child and im scared to infect my him. I am on antiretroviral treatment. Please help.
Hi,
It is great that you are on treatment. This will help you baby become HIV positive. This works by reducing your viral load (the amount of virus in your blood stream). The important thing is to have an undetectable viral load by the time you give birth.
You are already helping to protect your baby by being on treatment. Having sex with your partner does not affect the risk of HIV being transmitted to your baby. The fact you are on treatment also reduces the risk of transmission for your partner.
Until you viral load is undetectable and has been for a few months the most effective way for your partner to protect himself is too use condoms though.
You can find more information on HIV treatment and pregnancy here:
http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy
I’m HIV positive. My man is negative, he doesn’t like us to use condom and I’m taking treament to protect my baby. Can my baby be protected from HIV?
Hi Thabisile
Please see these links for more info.
http://i-base.info/qa/faqs-on-having-a-baby
http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy
(Especailly the section on “planning your pregnancy”
I am hiv negative and my husband is hiv positive , and now I need a child , and my status I wanna keep it as negative ,what can I do? Sperm wash is its clean -hiv negative sperm? Tell me more .I really need a child , I ve got one whose hiv negative , I don’t want to adopt and please help
Hi Fiza, is your husband on treatment? Please have a look at this previous question for information about how you and your husband can have a baby without you being infected.
Hi
I m from India. my husband is HIV positive nd I m HIV negative. we got married from last 9 months. he is positive from last 4 to 5 years. I want baby. so is there any treatment that I’ll got pregnant without the virous of HIV.
Please see our pregnancy guide, and let me know if you need further information.
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