Q and A

Question

I’m not on treatment, how do I tell my boyfriend?

I have been positive for the past 11 month. My CD4 count is 290. I’m not yet on treatment. I’m scared to tell my boyfriend.

Answer

Thanks for getting in touch.

Because your CD4 is 290 its important that you start medication. Not only will the meds help you, they will also reduce the risk of transmission to sexual partners to close to zero. Please see the results of the PARTNER study:

http://i-base.info/qa-on-the-partner-study/

If you’d like some info about starting treatment and its benefits please see the following:

http://i-base.info/guides/starting

With regards to telling your boyfriend, I can’t really tell you want to do. However, have you tried talking to him about HIV? If you have, what has his reaction been? This could be an indication as to how he would take the news.

One thing to remember is that you do not need to feel ashamed of being positive. It is after all a very manageable health condition.


Information on this website is provided by treatment advocates and offered as a guide only. Decisions about your treatment should always be taken in consultation with your doctor.

3 comments

  1. Lisa Thorley

    Hi Simon,

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  2. simon

    I wanted to say about your partner, at this moment why don’t you go and get some advice from a counsellor and get support. You can do this at your GUM clinic or go online and find out where your local HIV help group are. Even the Terrence Higgins Trust, they have counseling help groups. You will find that we have all been in your situation. I too had to tell my partner and find out how he would cope, and yes, it’s not easy. However, if the love is strong he will cope and understand. But the last thing you want on your mind is that he has caught your illness, as you will have more difficulty in coping with that then telling him. Take care of yourself and find some help and I’m sure all will be alright in the end

  3. simon

    Keep on getting tested for your HIV and like the other person said you can have a good life on medicine and hopefully one day a cure might come along.

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