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Question

My partner and I are both positive, can we have kids?

Both my partner and I are positive and on medication. We’ve been on it since June last year. This was when we were diagnosed. We’re both really supportive of each other. Can we have a child, and one that isn’t positive?

Answer

Thanks for getting in touch.

Its great to hear that you and your partner are supportive of each other and that you’re on medication.

With regards to having children, there’s no reason why you can’t have kids. Many people who are positive have kids, and kids who are negative. The important thing is to be on medication, which you are. Being on meds will reduce the risk of transmission to your baby. There’s more about this here in our pregnancy guide:

http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy

4 comments

  1. Lisa Thorley

    Hi Precious,

    The first thing that you should know is that you aren’t a risk to your partner. As long as you’re on meds and your viral load is undetectable you cannot transmit the virus to him. Please see Q’s 9 and 14 here:

    http://i-base.info/qa/what-are-the-most-asked-questions

    With regards to telling him, its not really possible for me to say. Being honest however is probably the best thing, but I do appreciate how hard it can be. Being able to explain to him that he isn’t at risk may help.

  2. Precious

    Hi

    I am HIV Positive for the 18 years, since then I manage to have 4 beautiful kids who are HIV negative. I started my treatment in 2013 and I am in a very good health.
    two years back we breack-up with my husband, I found someone late last year. I did not doscolsed to him but I have not done anything that will put his life at risk. We always make sure that we use condoms. I dont know his HIV status. But last month he said we should go for HIV tests and I’m very scared to lose him I dont know what to do. And I think he want us to test because he want to stop using condoms. What do I have to do? Where do i start telling him about my status? And i don’t want and I won’t risk his life. And I am not ready to tell him. Our relationship is so beautiful at the moment and we are happy. I am scared he will leave me.

  3. Lisa Thorley

    Hi Zweli,

    We get asked this question a lot. Unless a cure is found, then someone who is positive will always be positive. This is even if they are on effective treatment and their viral load is undetectable. For now we have ARVs which are great at controlling a person’s HIV.

  4. Zweli

    Is it posible for anyone on hiv treatment to become negative in future

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