Panic over HIV with zero risk, wrong use of PEP, offensive responses…
Hello last month i had sex with a person who is HIV positive and the condom burst and in the morning she said that she is HIV positive and she said she’s on treatment and her viral load is undetectable.
I didn’t believe her and we went to her doctor and he confirmed it and he sent her an email containing her CD4 and viral load and her viral load was written like this less than 30 and at the end written lower than detectable.
I still took PEP after 12 hours and i finished the 28th day today so what are the chances i could catch the virus. I’m too worried and scared to go test, wow! I’m so nervous and learned my lesson.
We get a lot of insentive questions and this is not the worst, but it is pretty bad.
- They include examples of adults deciding to have sex who don’t talk about HIV before but then panic afterwards.
- Sometimes, always men, physically make their partner take an HIV test. No-one has the right to make anyone take an HIV test.
- If their partner is HIV positive and undetectable, they do not believe them.
This person probably has no idea of how offensive this is including how they treated thier partner.
Instead of taking time to learn about HIV, it just shows stigma and discrimination.
This link is a good start for more up-to-date info:
U=U: why an undetectable viral load means there is zero risk
This person is so worried about themselves that they show no awareness of the feelings of the person who was unlucky enough to have met them.
To the person who asked this Q, I hope you apologise to this woman for your behaviour.
Your doctor was also wrong, unless they were prescribing PEP for psychological reasons. In the UK PEP is only prescribed after an actual risk.
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