Why am I positive after so many years?
Hi there, I had sex in 2010, the with one other lady. Then I got married in 2014 and in 2016 my wife tested HIV negative. She was also negative in 2018 and 2019 when trying for a baby.
My son was born a little later and he is negative and my wife is still negative.
This month I tested hiv positive test due to blood infection for an operation. I have not had other partnes since 2014.
I sounds like you did not expect this test result. If not, then it is worth checking that the clinic has run a second test to confirm this first result. This is normally done, but it is good to check.
I am sorry about your result – it sounds like you have probably been HIV positive since before 2014. How are you? Do you have access to treatment and support?
Although finding out you are positive can be difficult, it does mean you can get access to treatment.
This makes it good that you have found out now, before you became more ill.
It also sounds like your partners and children have been lucky. HIV is not transmitted every time, even if condoms are not always used. Q5 at this link explains this a bit more:
Have you been able to talk about this to your friends or family yet? Or to a health counsellor? How is your partner taking the news?