Question

I kissed an HIV positive man

23 February 2008. Related: All topics.

I wanted to have a baby but I didn’t have a husband and I was getting older. I asked this guy i know very well, to help me make a baby. We dated ten years ago and I guess we still like each other somewhat.My fertility doctor told me if he (the doctor) provides the donor it will be much more expensive so i asked a friend. He said yes .

So my doctor tested both of us and his was HIV positive. We hadn’t have sex in ten years but we had been French kissing lately since we started talking again.

I went to my doctor and told him that i had been kissing this guy. The doctor said that the risk is BASICALLY zero that I had contracted the virus. He said he will do the test in three months just to ease my mind. I am waiting but I can’t sleep in the meanwhile.

Lately, I have been having all the signs of a person going through seroconversion. Two weeks after exposure I developed an earache and I still have it after one month. My lymph nodes are swollen in my neck and in my thighs cough and cold.

I had the flu and while I had that I had a fever, chills and night sweats.
The doctor diagnosed me with pneumonia after a chest xray. I took all the antibiotics and it went away.After the flu went away( in one week) my nodes are still painful.I still have the earache.

My doctor had just did a test on me a month ago because I had decided on infertility treatments.I WAS NEGATIVE.

The doctor said this is the worst flu season and I shouldn’t worry myself. I don’t feel well at all. I can’t wait for three months.Why are my nodes still swollen.

What am i to make of these symptoms I am experiencing? Is it all in my head?

Answer

Answer: Simon Collins

I am more concerned for your friend who is now dealing with a real HIV positive diagnosis, after having agreed to help you with your wish to have a baby.

You surely know that if HIV can not be caught by kissing, confirmed by your doctor, that you can not have caught HIV.

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