Question
Are there websites to meet other HIV positive people?
27 March 2012. Related: All topics, Living with HIV long-term, Support.
I am an HIV positive heterosexual British woman. I had chosen the single life since my diagnosis five years ago. But now I feel ready to start dating again and would love to find a partner that I can maybe share a future with. I refuse to sit on the shelf anymore and give in to a solitary future because of my HIV!
Unfortunately, I have not had very good reactions when I have disclosed my HIV status and have been the victim of ignorant gossip as a result. So I was wondering, are there any free dating sites for people living with HIV in the UK?
Answer
It is good that you want to start dating again. The shock from an HIV diagnosis often makes people want to wait before dating again. Sometimes it takes time to build up the strength and confidence to want to do this.
Deciding to meet other positive people has a lot of advantages and one of the easiest ways to make contact with people is to use the internet.
The community forums at poz.com include a personals section that has free registration and many thousands of international users (including from the UK). This might be a good place to start.
You do not have to live alone just because of your HIV status. There are many people in a similar situation just like you, but they have managed to find someone that they can share and enjoy their lives with. This is a very encouraging and a positive step that you have made towards your future.
Community-based sites are likely to be better that commercial sites that require fees. Most community sites though include options to access more feature by subscribing.
If the forums here are not helpful, you could start a discussion to see whether other members have found other sites helpful.
There are lots of online resources about internet dating that talk about how to do this safely. This includes taking care when giving out personal information and if you get to the point of wanting to meet, to do this in a public place, with a friend knowing your plans.
The check list at this link is a good overview if you are new to meeting people by internet.
Hello Appolonia and thanks for getting in touch.
HIV should not prevent you from having a full and enjoyable emotional life and of course having a partner who cares for you and supports you.
HIV I-base, however, is specialising on HIV treatments so we won’t be able to help you in your search.
I highly recommend getting involved in local groups and peer support though that can boost up your confidence.
Hello, I am a lady living with hiv…looking for a partner..
Hi Arturo, thanks for your message and for sharing your experience and how you feel. It sounds like you are going through a lot right now and that a little support might help. You have also been doing really well for so long and it is good you know that the meds work really well, even if you sometimes worry about taking them.
Please ask you clinic if they can help with counselling or if they can recommend a local HIV organisation where you can get support.
If you are in the US (you mentioned Bear County) then there should be support groups in most counties or states.
A Google search could show these – and maybe other online options too.
Hi I’m diagnosed with HIV since 2010 to now 2026.
I often on take my meds and I do want to get back on my meds again and just I need the right support people or support group that who can help me get through this again once I find out I diagnosed with HIV and Bear county jail my heart stopped and no one to cry to no family no one and it really hurts.
Can someone help me direct me to the right path again of having faith and myself of living with HIV and taking medication is okay sometimes I think taking medication is not worth it at all taking pill by pill changing pills everyday or changing pills when the doctors tell you we need to change this we need to change that or this is not working for me or this is not working for you you know and I get tired of it and I trying to realize that that’s the only thing that’s keeping me alive is that those pills.
I’m happy that we have the medication now not like back then I should be happy and grateful that medication is here for us now that we should be taking them if that makes sense right now I’m a little bit lost just want to share something out there and publish it it’s been a long time haven’t polished nothing or say anything about my symptoms or anything like that I’ve been keeping it to myself from other people.
I don’t want to hurt the other people that my loved ones and families and friends just I’m sorry for what I did and sorry for what I done I’m sorry for being sick but I’m so happy that I’m still here now live a sad but most of all I’m happy I’m still alive and breathing I should be grateful that I’m walking and still doing things that I still can’t do I should not let this HIV stop me from anything or make me think the other way around that my life is over my life is done I can’t do nothing people are looking people are looking in front of me or anything like that I should have passed that and say you know what I got this.
I’m alive I’m going to do things where I got to do and keep going if this pills didn’t keep me alive and do things to my hobbies like dancing and doing artwork or making people laugh or do anything to make the world be happy again and love I’m going to do it well that’s all I got to say for now thank you for hearing me out and listen to me thank you God for another day another blessing another life another breathe another walk another year.
thank you
Hi Hanna, I am sorry but i-Base doesn’t run a personal agency but I wish you luck finding a partner.
Hie I’m a lady from zimbabwe looking for a patner in Europe
Hi Majorine, I am sorry but i-Base doesn’t run a personal agency but I wish you luck finding a partner.
I’m majorine I am hiv positive I’m looking for a partner
Thanks for the comment Mercy
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