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Question

Are there websites to meet other HIV positive people?

I am an HIV positive heterosexual British woman. I had chosen the single life since my diagnosis five years ago. But now I feel ready to start dating again and would love to find a partner that I can maybe share a future with. I refuse to sit on the shelf anymore and give in to a solitary future because of my HIV!

Unfortunately, I have not had very good reactions when I have disclosed my HIV status and have been the victim of ignorant gossip as a result. So I was wondering, are there any free dating sites for people living with HIV in the UK?

Answer

It is good that you want to start dating again. The shock from an HIV diagnosis often makes people want to wait before dating again. Sometimes it takes time to build up the strength and confidence to want to do this.

Deciding to meet other positive people has a lot of advantages and one of the easiest ways to make contact with people is to use the internet.

The community forums at poz.com include a personals section that has free registration and many thousands of international users (including from the UK). This might be a good place to start.

You do not have to live alone just because of your HIV status. There are many people in a similar situation just like you, but they have managed to find someone that they can share and enjoy their lives with. This is a very encouraging and a positive step that you have made towards your future.

Community-based sites are likely to be better that commercial sites that require fees. Most community sites though include options to access more feature by subscribing.

If the forums here are not helpful, you could start a discussion to see whether other members have found other sites helpful.

There are lots of online resources about internet dating that talk about how to do this safely. This includes taking care when giving out personal information and if you get to the point of wanting to meet, to do this in a public place, with a friend knowing your plans.

The check list at this link is a good overview if you are new to meeting people by internet.

140 comments

  1. Susannah

    Looking out for HIv+ man aged Btwn 40_60.am 43

  2. Roy Trevelion

    Hi Kay,

    This link to Poz.com forums is international. But have you talked to the clinic? They might know of HIV peer support groups that can introduce you to other HIV positive people.

  3. Kay

    Hi am HIV positive & am on medication, am from Uganda Entebbe, am looking for a white guy to love, is it possible!

  4. Roy Trevelion

    Hi Jones,

    Have you tried the community forums at poz.com. They have free registration and many thousands of international users.

    Sorry, i-Base is an HIV treatment information service for people who are positive and their friends and family. We don’t publish personal details about our users.

  5. Jones

    Am Jones lives in Texas looking for HIV positive or negative to seriously date or if possible marry…. Text me on WhatsApp here ,,,,,am not having HIV but I want to have and see how it work, that’s why am looking for the HIV positive woman seriously…

  6. Lisa Thorley

    Hi Rhandz,

    As long as you’re on medication there’s no reason why you can’t live a long and fulfilling life. Please see Q10 here: http://i-base.info/qa/what-are-the-most-asked-questions

  7. Rhandz

    Hi I’m rhandz 28 from the Philippines
    I want to ask if I followed my arv treatment I can live longer and healthy living?
    I’m afraid
    I was reactive in November 24,2018

  8. Roy Trevelion

    Hi Ryan,

    Receiving oral sex is low risk. When there is no cum or pre-cum the risk is zero. Please see this link.

  9. Ryan

    Hi
    I’m a bi-sexual man in Essex I’ve had anal sex a few times as a top but always wear a condom.
    But have had oral sex more times never let anyone ejaculate in my mouth, and don’t suck for long.
    But now have swollen glands in my neck been a few weeks and terrified it’s hiv.

    Please help

  10. Roy Trevelion

    Hi Sthando,

    Please follow the links given on this question. Good luck to you.

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