Question
Are there websites to meet other HIV positive people?
27 March 2012. Related: All topics, Living with HIV long-term, Support.
I am an HIV positive heterosexual British woman. I had chosen the single life since my diagnosis five years ago. But now I feel ready to start dating again and would love to find a partner that I can maybe share a future with. I refuse to sit on the shelf anymore and give in to a solitary future because of my HIV!
Unfortunately, I have not had very good reactions when I have disclosed my HIV status and have been the victim of ignorant gossip as a result. So I was wondering, are there any free dating sites for people living with HIV in the UK?
Answer
It is good that you want to start dating again. The shock from an HIV diagnosis often makes people want to wait before dating again. Sometimes it takes time to build up the strength and confidence to want to do this.
Deciding to meet other positive people has a lot of advantages and one of the easiest ways to make contact with people is to use the internet.
The community forums at poz.com include a personals section that has free registration and many thousands of international users (including from the UK). This might be a good place to start.
You do not have to live alone just because of your HIV status. There are many people in a similar situation just like you, but they have managed to find someone that they can share and enjoy their lives with. This is a very encouraging and a positive step that you have made towards your future.
Community-based sites are likely to be better that commercial sites that require fees. Most community sites though include options to access more feature by subscribing.
If the forums here are not helpful, you could start a discussion to see whether other members have found other sites helpful.
There are lots of online resources about internet dating that talk about how to do this safely. This includes taking care when giving out personal information and if you get to the point of wanting to meet, to do this in a public place, with a friend knowing your plans.
The check list at this link is a good overview if you are new to meeting people by internet.
Am a male from Nigeria looking for a male 28 to 32 from Canada
Hi Lethabo,
It’s great to hear that you’re healthy and ready for life.
But i-Base is an HIV treatment info resource. So if you’re looking to meet someone new, it’s a good idea to click through on the links given above. The links are in the following section.
The community forums at poz.com include a personals section that has free registration and many thousands of international users (including from the UK). This might be a good place to start.
The check list at this link is a good overview if you are new to meeting people by internet.
I have been hiv for 16yrs now living a healthy lifestyle I am looking for older people (men)55_61 who are ready for life.my name is Lethabo in South Africa only serious people
Hi Willy,
I hope you don’t mind but I took out your personal contact details. I’m sorry but i-Base can’t do this.
But please follow the links on the Q&A above. And have a look at the check list if you are new to meeting people on the internet. I’m hoping you find happiness really soon.
Hey Im Willy 30 Yrs old Positive Man From Uganda I Would Like Some Postive Lady In USA, CANADA For Lasting Realtionship , Im Intrested To Meet Lovely Trustworthy Lady Age 20~ 28 Who Can Make My Life Happy And Ready Settle With Me I Have Been In Treatment For 5 Yrs. I Will Get Back To You With More Story!
Hi Mumbejja,
HIV is no longer the illness it used to be. It very possible to have children and also to marry, etc.. The main thing that is that your daughter should use ARVs. It’s the ARVs that will help your daughter lead a normal life.
My doughter is only 20yrs as another am worried for she is HIV positive but very healthy can she get a serious man here she has only one child she got pregnant at high school
Hi Howard,
As it says above, the community forums at poz.com include a personals section that has free registration and many thousands of international users (including from the UK). This might be a good place to start.
Good luck!
I am looking for someone that is not playing games I am liveing in Switzerland
Hi Lizzy,
You could start with the forums at poz.com. And then you could try the other links on the answer above.
Best wishes and good luck!