Question
I'm HIV negative and my girfriend's positive. Can we have a baby?
25 June 2012. Related: All topics, Pregnancy, Sero different couples.
I am dating a woman who is HIV positive and I love her with all my heart.
Now we want to start having kids.
What can I do, because I am HIV negative?
Answer
It is great that you love your girlfriend and plan to have children with her. Many sero-different couples (where one is HIV positive and the other is not), have had and continue to have healthy HIV negative babies.
There are a number of conception options available to a couple like you. These depend on a number of factors including whether your girlfriend is taking ARVs (antiretroviral treatment for HIV).
A simple method which protects you from catching HIV is the Do-It-Yourself articificial insemination. This is a method if self insemination using a plastic syringe. Around the time of ovulation, you put your sperms as high as possible into your girlfriend’s vagina.(Ovulation takes place in the middle of your girlfriend’s cycle, about 14 days before her period).
Different clinics may recommend different methods. One way is to have protected intercourse with a spermicide-free condom. Another is for you to ejaculate into a container. In both cases, you or your girlfriend can then insert the sperm into her vagina.
For more detailed information on the above and other options available to you, please follow this link to our guide to HIV, pregnancy and women’s health. The guide also answers a lot of general questions you and your girlfriend may have around HIV and pregnancy.
Good luck with your future plans.
Hi Nosicleo,
Please see the above post as well as the following:
http://i-base.info/htb/32308
I’m HIV + me n my bf we want kids but he scare to have HIV+ what should we do
Hi Moipone, if your viral load is undetectable on treatment, this protects your boyfriend from HIV, even if you do not use condoms.
This mean you can conceive naturally and the meds will also protect the baby. Please talk to your doctor about your plans so they can help.
Info on undetectable viral load preventing transmission is here:
http://i-base.info/the-evidence-for-uu-selected-key-studies-from-20-years-of-accumulating-evidence
Info on having a baby is here:
http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy
If your boyfriend is still very worried about not using a condom, you could also self inseminate using his sperm. Your doctor can explain how to do this.
Hy i am Moipone, i am hiv positive n my boyfriend is negative and we want a baby. What can we do cos my boyfriend said he scared to get HIV. please helps
Hi Yonelisa,
Please see Q6 here:
http://i-base.info/qa/what-are-the-most-asked-questions
And the following:
http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy
I’m HIV+, I want a baby, what can I do?
Hi Andile,
Please see Q6 here:
http://i-base.info/qa/what-are-the-most-asked-questions
And the following guide:
http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy
Am hiv positive my boyfriend is negative we want to have a baby now what can we do?
Hi Nombuso,
The most important thing is that you’re on medication. You being on medication will reduce the risk of transmission not only to your partner, but also to your baby. Please see Q6 here:
http://i-base.info/qa/what-are-the-most-asked-questions
and the following link:
http://i-base.info/guides/pregnancy
I’m HIV positive and my boyfriend is negative. He loves me, and wants to have a child with me. What can I do to protect him and my baby?