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Question

My husband just tested HIV positive but I tested HIV negative?

We just found out my husband has HIV today I tested negative and I don’t understand why. Can you please explain.

Also what is lipodystropy?

Answer

I am sorry to hear about your husbands test results, but you are lucky in still being HIV negative.

We have had many questions from people in your situation and it is not uncommon. Although you are HIV-negative now, it doesn’t mean you are protected against HIV in the future, so it is important to use condoms now with your husband.

So far you have just been lucky – not every exposure results in infection – but you are still at risk catching HIV.

For more information about your husbands health and treatment see this guide.

Lipodystrophy is the term for a range of side effect to some HIV drugs, that changes the way your body processes fats and sugars. More information is at this link.


Information on this website is provided by treatment advocates and offered as a guide only. Decisions about your treatment should always be taken in consultation with your doctor.

53 comments

  1. Hi

    It sounds like you must be going through a difficult time if you didn’t expect this. Your negative results is a pretty good sign that you are unlikely to be positive, but your doctor is giving you good advice to recommend the second test.

    It would be better to contact a support organisation perhaps to talk through these issues in more detail. It is great that you have asked the question here but I don’t know enough about your circumstances – or even your country – to be able to help.

    At some time I hope you can talk together but you have to decide when the time is right – or how to get to a situation where your husband can open up.

    I imagine he must also be in shock from both the diagnosis and treatment.

    People are too different to be able to recommend one thing. What may be right for one couple may not be appropriate for another, but you will need your own support to find a way through this.

  2. Just found out that my husband’s been treated for HIV for over a month, he hasn’t said anything to me, but I been tested negative, and told by the doctor to do a retest in 3 mths time. Should I let him know that I’ve found out. What should I do?

  3. Hi,

    It is common for one partner in a relationship to be negative and one to be positive. You can find more information about this in the answer above.

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