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Question

Are there websites to meet other HIV positive people?

I am an HIV positive heterosexual British woman. I had chosen the single life since my diagnosis five years ago. But now I feel ready to start dating again and would love to find a partner that I can maybe share a future with. I refuse to sit on the shelf anymore and give in to a solitary future because of my HIV!

Unfortunately, I have not had very good reactions when I have disclosed my HIV status and have been the victim of ignorant gossip as a result. So I was wondering, are there any free dating sites for people living with HIV in the UK?

Answer

It is good that you want to start dating again. The shock from an HIV diagnosis often makes people want to wait before dating again. Sometimes it takes time to build up the strength and confidence to want to do this.

Deciding to meet other positive people has a lot of advantages and one of the easiest ways to make contact with people is to use the internet.

The community forums at poz.com include a personals section that has free registration and many thousands of international users (including from the UK). This might be a good place to start.

You do not have to live alone just because of your HIV status. There are many people in a similar situation just like you, but they have managed to find someone that they can share and enjoy their lives with. This is a very encouraging and a positive step that you have made towards your future.

Community-based sites are likely to be better that commercial sites that require fees. Most community sites though include options to access more feature by subscribing.

If the forums here are not helpful, you could start a discussion to see whether other members have found other sites helpful.

There are lots of online resources about internet dating that talk about how to do this safely. This includes taking care when giving out personal information and if you get to the point of wanting to meet, to do this in a public place, with a friend knowing your plans.

The check list at this link is a good overview if you are new to meeting people by internet.

138 comments

  1. ema

    hi am lizzy am also HIV positive looking for a man, am 28 yrs old staying Joburg

  2. Lisa Thorley

    Hi Ntaolleng,

    This isn’t really something that i-base can help you with as we’re a treatment advocacy organisation. You being positive shouldn’t be a reason to put you off dating. Yes I know it can be hard, but its very possible.

  3. Ntaolleng

    Hey my name is Ntaoleng I’m 38 years old with two kids and I’m HIV + and I’m looking for man who can love me and not discriminate

  4. Roy Trevelion

    Hi Sharlot,

    Thanks. You could start with the forums at poz.com. And then you could try the other links on the answer above.

    Best wishes and good luck!

  5. sharlot

    Hi am sharlot a ugandan by country based in East Africa I am a 24years old gal am Hiv positive and single searching for a man to love unapologetically ❤I need to settle down and spread the love to him no matter the distance Thanks

  6. Roy Trevelion

    Hi Morris,

    You could make a start with the forums at poz.com. Unfortunately i-Base is an HIV treatment information service. So we don’t give out personal info about people who contact us.

    But good luck, and you could try the other links on the answer above too.

  7. Morris

    Hi. Am Morris, a 35 years old Ugandan. Am HIV positive and single. Am now searching any suitable lady for intimate relationship and possibly marriage.

  8. Roy Trevelion

    Hi Queen,

    Have you tried this link to the forums of poz.com? That might be a good place to start. There are other links on the answer above that could be useful too.

  9. Queen

    Hi.. I’m queen… Hiv+ I am a Nigerian.. Planning to relocate to USA this year…. I want to meet friends in the US either hiv+ or hiv-… Hope to get feedback soon… Thanks

  10. Roy Trevelion

    Hi Susannah,

    Please follow the links given in the question above. Good luck to you.

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