Question
Will I ever heal?
3 October 2024. Related: All topics, Southern Africa, Support.
Hallo my lovly family, will i ever heal from this virus or is for ever?
Answer
Hello and thank you for the question.
HIV shouldn’t stop you from living your life.
Although HIV currently need long-term treatment, many researchers are still looking for ways to cure HIV, so this might come in the future.
- People living with HIV can have long, healthy, active lives.
- People living with HIV who are on treatment live as much as the general population.
- People living with HIV who have undetectable viral load cannot pass on hiv to their sexual partners.
These two links might be useful:
Hello Mandem and thanks for getting in touch.
I understand you have come a long way with living with HIV but you have not really dealt with your feelings so far.
You seem to be a very strong and smart person.
You are doing the right choices for you and there is a very healthy part of you that wants to live and live well.
Going out there and meeting someone you like, and putting yourself out there was a huge risk, only someone very brave would take.
I am very proud of you.
Disclosing your status is something you will decide.
You will decide who you will tell and when.
This is an information relevant only to you.
You are very right though that relationships should be based on trust and revealing your status is part of your truth.
It’s best to get involved in a relationship with people who can support you and accept you for who you are.
That can ensure your relationship is based in honesty and can be substantial.
If this girl is not the person for that kind of relationship it’s better to know now rather than later.
I know it’s hard to believe now, but you will meet people who will want to be with you exactly as you are.
I am sending you a link to information about people who just found they are living with HIV as it has a chapter about telling people about your status:
https://i-base.info/just-found-out/
Hi,
I think for the first time I am feeling the pain of having HIV. I first found out about my HIV in 2012 and I went to the hospital to confirm. I lived in denial for 10 years without symptoms. I’m currently on drugs and I’m undetectable. I met a girl I think I’m in love with but in a casual conversation she told me she can’t stay or marry someone with HIV even if they are undetectable. I feel terrible sad, and angry. I am wondering if I should reveal my status although I feel the relationship will end. I hate that I can’t have my own family with someone I love. I am afraid to even date anyone. I feel really low this moment and I can’t even sleep.