Question
Can I get married if I am HIV positive?
14 January 2008. Related: All topics, Living with HIV long-term, Newly diagnosed.
Hi. Can I marry if I am HIV positive? I am only 28 male, and just diagnosed. How long I can live if I start HAART in future? Do you also think there will be more treatement options in future? Thank you
Answer
Yes, most countries have no legal obstacles against marriage, though many countries do have laws that saw you need to tell your partner about your HIV status. There are some countries where discrimination limits human rights, so it also depends where you live.
Many HIV positive men get married – to partners who are either HIV positive or HIV negative. If their partner is HIV-negative it is still possible to have children
Hi Amol, it is always recommended to test even when risk is low/zero.
Oral sex carries little to no risk of transmission. There has never been a documented case of transmission via this route.
More information about testing and transmission can be found here: https://i-base.info/guides/testing
Hi, iam bi and I had sex with boy ,and he is hiv positive …but we didn’t had anal sex we had oral sex only… should I also go for hiv test…
Hi Ajay, it is great to hear how well you are doing on treatment. Yes you can marry someone HIV negative, your status should not impact your ability to marry.
It is a legal requirement to disclose your status prior to marriage in India.
As you have an undetectable viral load there is no risk of transmission to your partner. This is called U=U: https://i-base.info/u-equals-u/
I am hiv positive from India. I have undetectable viral load and good CD4 count. I am 48 yrs. Can I marry a,hiv negative women? A divorcee, widow, sterile or 35+ unmarried will also do
Hi Mimi – thanks – and great you are doing so well. I am sorry that i-Base doesn’t connect people individually, but hope you find a partner.
Hi am Mimi from in Ghana 27 years am hiv positive looking for hiv positive partner
Hi SK, I am sorry but i-Base isn’t able to connect people for personal relationships but other organisations allow personal adverts. It might be better for your son to be doing this himself though. Perhaps suggest looking at services run by http://www.poz.com.
Hi, my son is HIV positive, virus load undetectable & CD4 also very good (more than 500) and is looking for an HIV positive bride…
Hi Bernard, do you current have a sex life with your partner? do you know if she is on treatment?
When someone is on treatment with a viral load below 200/undetectable it is impossible to pass on HIV to their partner. This includes having sex without a condom. This also makes the risk of passing HIV to a baby less than 1%.
This is called U=U: https://i-base.info/u-equals-u/
When on treatment and doing well there are no costs associated with HIV. Treatment will let someone lead a healthy life without it impacting on their health/finances.
Hi, please I am planning to marry my hiv positive girlfriend but I am negative, can you help me with or have I idea of how our marriage and sexual life with be. And also most of the challenges.
Also I want to know if is very costly to be with hiv positive partner.