Question
Can I get married if I am HIV positive?
14 January 2008. Related: All topics, Living with HIV long-term, Newly diagnosed.
Hi. Can I marry if I am HIV positive? I am only 28 male, and just diagnosed. How long I can live if I start HAART in future? Do you also think there will be more treatement options in future? Thank you
Answer
Yes, most countries have no legal obstacles against marriage, though many countries do have laws that saw you need to tell your partner about your HIV status. There are some countries where discrimination limits human rights, so it also depends where you live.
Many HIV positive men get married – to partners who are either HIV positive or HIV negative. If their partner is HIV-negative it is still possible to have children
Hello Natinael and thanks for getting in touch.
Unfortunately in I-base we can only offer information on HIV medication.
We wish you every luck in finding a partner
I want female
Hi Cynthia, congratulations on your marriage but I don’t understand your question? There are millions of couple where one partner is positive and the other is negative. HIV meds are very effective. As well as keeping your husband healthy they also prevent any risk to yourself and any children you decide to have.
Your husband just needs to be taking effective HIV meds and to have an undetectable viral load. Please see this information on U=U:
https://i-base.info/u-equals-u
My husband is hiv positive and we just got married, and I am hiv negative we have no child yet are you advising to stay in that marriage or leave the marriage am 30years old.
Hello Mary and thanks for getting in touch
I am sorry to hear you have had difficulties in the past.
People living with HIV today can live full, healthy lives.
I hope the same for you
Please feel free to stay in touch if you want to discuss this more
Hi I am Mary. I am hiv positive. I would like to be happy again after so many problems.
Hi Seera, I am sorry but this service is mainly about science and treatment. I know the situation is difficult but I am not trained to give advice for what is best for you. You sounds like an amazing person, especially to have stood up to HIV and taken meds for so long.
This means that you deserve someone who will be smart enough to learn about U=U and treatment – or he might even also be living with HIV.
Maybe bring up HIV in general conversation where you can can how amazing it is that treatment is now so effective etc.
Whatever happens I wish you luck with your future plans.
Other people might comment below too.
Am hiv positive and aged 51, I started taking ART in 2006 .my viral load is undetectable. I fell in love with a man who wants we test but am so scared and I love this man what do I do? He also loves me but we in distance love. Soon he is coming around. Am so scared and confused on what to do. please advise me.
Hello Edonisson and thank you for contacting us.
Living with HIV should not stop you from marrying.
HIV is a condition you can control easily and if you are on effective treatment (which means your viral load is undetectable) you cannot pass it on to your partners or your children.
Do you mind explaining more about your situation?
Here is some more information: https://i-base.info/qa/15843
I am 55 and living with HIV since 2013. I wanna marry a woman