Question
Are there websites to meet other HIV positive people?
27 March 2012. Related: All topics, Living with HIV long-term, Support.
I am an HIV positive heterosexual British woman. I had chosen the single life since my diagnosis five years ago. But now I feel ready to start dating again and would love to find a partner that I can maybe share a future with. I refuse to sit on the shelf anymore and give in to a solitary future because of my HIV!
Unfortunately, I have not had very good reactions when I have disclosed my HIV status and have been the victim of ignorant gossip as a result. So I was wondering, are there any free dating sites for people living with HIV in the UK?
Answer
It is good that you want to start dating again. The shock from an HIV diagnosis often makes people want to wait before dating again. Sometimes it takes time to build up the strength and confidence to want to do this.
Deciding to meet other positive people has a lot of advantages and one of the easiest ways to make contact with people is to use the internet.
The community forums at poz.com include a personals section that has free registration and many thousands of international users (including from the UK). This might be a good place to start.
You do not have to live alone just because of your HIV status. There are many people in a similar situation just like you, but they have managed to find someone that they can share and enjoy their lives with. This is a very encouraging and a positive step that you have made towards your future.
Community-based sites are likely to be better that commercial sites that require fees. Most community sites though include options to access more feature by subscribing.
If the forums here are not helpful, you could start a discussion to see whether other members have found other sites helpful.
There are lots of online resources about internet dating that talk about how to do this safely. This includes taking care when giving out personal information and if you get to the point of wanting to meet, to do this in a public place, with a friend knowing your plans.
The check list at this link is a good overview if you are new to meeting people by internet.
Am queen from rivers I need a partner
Hi Wellington,
Though i-base aren’t in a position to help you meet someone, there are other organisations that can help. One of which is POZ. They have a section on their site where you can meet others. Please see here:
https://www.poz.com/
If this isn’t something that works for you, what about joining a positive support group?
i am positive need a woman i am male age 44 employed any country
Hi Andisiwe, you fears and feelings are very normal. Especially having a new relationship and new baby. Is there anyone you can talk to about this? Modern HIV drugs are now so good that your doctor should be able to say you will be likely to live a long and normal life – so long as you are good taking your meds. Your son might have to help you at some point, but you are likely to be a much older woman and this is much more likely to be because of old age rather than HIV.
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Hi Tarry,
i-base are not able to put individuals in touch with each other. You could though if you wished, join a support groups. These can be good places to meet people.
I’m a woman whose been positive since 2000 very strong, healthy, looking for a companion, good friend to be.
Hi Chichi, I hope that you find a partner. Unfortunately I cannot post your phone number online as i-Base is not able to be as a contact agency.
hi am chichi a Nigerian lady am 22years have been poz since last year am looking for a friend, companion, family and a husband to be a good father to my unborn children any country is good understanding is the main thing.