Question
Are there websites to meet other HIV positive people?
27 March 2012. Related: All topics, Living with HIV long-term, Support.
I am an HIV positive heterosexual British woman. I had chosen the single life since my diagnosis five years ago. But now I feel ready to start dating again and would love to find a partner that I can maybe share a future with. I refuse to sit on the shelf anymore and give in to a solitary future because of my HIV!
Unfortunately, I have not had very good reactions when I have disclosed my HIV status and have been the victim of ignorant gossip as a result. So I was wondering, are there any free dating sites for people living with HIV in the UK?
Answer
It is good that you want to start dating again. The shock from an HIV diagnosis often makes people want to wait before dating again. Sometimes it takes time to build up the strength and confidence to want to do this.
Deciding to meet other positive people has a lot of advantages and one of the easiest ways to make contact with people is to use the internet.
The community forums at poz.com include a personals section that has free registration and many thousands of international users (including from the UK). This might be a good place to start.
You do not have to live alone just because of your HIV status. There are many people in a similar situation just like you, but they have managed to find someone that they can share and enjoy their lives with. This is a very encouraging and a positive step that you have made towards your future.
Community-based sites are likely to be better that commercial sites that require fees. Most community sites though include options to access more feature by subscribing.
If the forums here are not helpful, you could start a discussion to see whether other members have found other sites helpful.
There are lots of online resources about internet dating that talk about how to do this safely. This includes taking care when giving out personal information and if you get to the point of wanting to meet, to do this in a public place, with a friend knowing your plans.
The check list at this link is a good overview if you are new to meeting people by internet.
Patrick
Looking for someone living with HIV that can understand each other
Hi Lovy,
Have you tried some of the online dating sites for people who are positive? This could be a start.
Im 33 yrs old permanent ly working with 2kids im loking fr some1 honest loving and carring man with same status mine is HIV+ Iwant a man age 40 to 46
Hi Anne,
Where do you live Anne? You can see there are links on this answer above and they include different countries.
Am a lady, living with hiv for 29 yrs, am 52 yrs old, I have grownup children , looking for a man with same status.
Hi Silver,
Is sounds like you may need to talk to someone, and possibly people who are transgender like yourself. Have you thought about joining a support group? This could be online. The following, though not HIV focused maybe able to support you: https://www.transgender.support/
If you are able to relocate to the UK there are several organisations that work with people like yourself.
Hi,iam 39 Transgender man living with HIV+ for 14 yrs now…i feel so lonely and alone cause of gossips and stigma.I really want to meet and possibly date a lady with same status.Iam from Africa,Namibia and am willing to go live in Uk…what can i do please help???
Hi Sameer, Good to hear from you. If going on dating site doesn’t suit you, perhaps connecting with a support group in the UK can help? You could try Positively UK? Good luck and best wishes.
Hi im 41 years old single living alone and postive.with hiv. im looking for love and married life. I living in leeds United kingdom. Im looking nice and honest.
Hello Queen, Some HIV positive people have had a difficult time finding a partner. But with modern HIV treatment (ART) it’s a lot easier. U=U means that the risk of transimission is nothing to worry about. Can you find out if there are support organisations where you live? They might be able to help you find a partner.