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Question

My partner has just been diagnosed, do we need to use condoms?

My partner has just sound out that she’s positive. I tested negative, which is strange because we’ve been having unprotected sex for 4 years. My question is, how is this possible? Also what do we do now, do we need to use condoms?

Answer

Thanks for getting in touch.

How is your partner doing with her diagnoses, is she getting the support that she may need?

With regards to your questions, HIV is actually a difficult virus to catch. For those who do become HIV positive, it’s simply a case of bad luck. Please see Q6 here:https://i-base.info/qa/what-are-the-most-asked-questions

Even if you’ve so far been lucky, you’re still at risk. This means that until your partner starts treatment and gets an undetectable viral load, you will need to use condoms. Once her viral load becomes undetectable, they’ll no longer be a risk.

There’s more info about this here: https://i-base.info/u-equals-u/

12 comments

  1. Roy Trevelion

    Hi Mda,

    As we have said before, it looks like you are HIV negative. Please talk to your doctor about your symptoms.

  2. mda

    Goodafternoon management of I-BASE.i am grateful for what this websitet are do to me.as i said befor i have sex with hiv positive woman condom broke without ejaculation.i withdraw within three second of condom broke the woman was in hiv treatment more than two years and 5months b\4 this accident occur.l start pep within 24hour of expourse without missing a single drugs for one months.after pep i start have headache that last for 2weeks,I still have a back pain and body weakness since i am done with pep till today.I did some test like hapetitic B AND C negative,diabetic liver typhoid fever std all are negative but i test H pylori positive.since i finish pep i test hiv 23times all are negative.4th generation hiv test 9times the last one i did at 222days of expourse 192days after pep.3th generation hiv test 14times the last one is at 227days of expourse but i still have body weakness and back pain.is my hiv test negative is conclusive at 7months and 17days of expourse or can pep affect my hiv test results