Question
Can I marry someone who is HIV positive?
6 February 2022. Related: All topics, HIV transmission, Sero different couples.
Can I marry an HIV positive woman? She has been on medication more than 4 years, my blood group is O+ can I get HIV?
Answer
Hi how are you?
Yes you can marry a woman who is HIV positive. Someones HIV status should not impact their ability to marry.
While your partner is on medication it is likely they are undetectable. This means they cannot pass on HIV via sex. Please see this for more information:https://i-base.info/u-equals-u/ This is likely contributed to why you are HIV negative. Transmission of HIV is not common. There are a number of factors that affect how it is transmitted. Transmission of HIV is discussed here: https://i-base.info/guides/testing/risks-for-transmission
There is no blood type that prevents transmission of HIV. Being O+ will not have changed your risk of transmission.
Good luck with your marriage.
Hi Josh,
Thanks for answering. Sorry to keep peppering you with questions.
My occipital lymph node swelling seems gone. I can’t feel it anymore. It was only ever slightly swollen. Would this be a good sign it’s not HIV?
Which lymph nodes swell with HIV and how long do they stay swollen?
Hi Mark, a PCR test in some cases can detect HIV as early as 3 days though this is not always accurate. PCR tests are not often used clinically as they do not look at antibodies. Have you considered a 4th generation antigen/antibody test? This is 95% accurate at 4 weeks and 99% at 6 weeks – this is blood testing. Rapid at home tests require a minimum of 90 days post exposure to be sure as it is only looking for antibodies, and the process of antibody generation can be slow in some people.
This link provides more information about the types of test available: https://i-base.info/guides/testing/appendix-1-different-types-of-hiv-test
Hi Josh,
Thanks for your response
I’m hoping to get the PCR test next week. As far as I understand that can pick up the virus after 10 days.
I’ll be at the 28th day mark too so I guess I could also do the rapid test? Or even blood drawn testing?
Any recommendations on which is most accurate?
Hi Mark, it is hard to say but as you mentioned pain and that you saw cum it is likely your parter did not cum inside you. Your occipital lymph node swelling is much more likely to do with your known Seborrheic dermatitis. Like you mentioned, stress can also cause lymph nodes to swell. Lymph nodes swell in response to infection and inflammation. In this case HIV would be very low down on the reasons why.
How long do you have to wait until you can be tested?
Hi Josh.
Also I’ve now noticed my occipital lymph node is slightly swollen. I’d say less than 1cm.
I do have Seborrheic dermatitis. And likely under my stress it’s gotten worse. I read that could cause that lymph node to swell but I also read HIV can cause it to swell too. I have no other symptoms.
I’ve been living in hell for weeks. Can’t wait to get out of this country to get tested.
I feel all alone
Hi Josh
Thanks for your response
One last question
Of course I keep playing out what happened in my mind.
As I said, it first he tried to penetrate with a condom. I don’t think it really got in. I wasn’t in pain. We stopped for a bit.
Then I felt this warm sensation and that’s when I turned around and saw he cumed all over me.
So my question is, if I felt the warm sensation does that mean it would have been on the outside? Or is it hard to say? This was only my second ‘bottom’ experience so it’s all new to me.
But I remember the distinct warm feeling
Hi Mark, I understand your fears but remember HIV is rare and not commonly transmitted. The chances of transmission after one exposure is minimal, especially given that this person was most likely HIV negative. Please refer to this link about fears and anxiety around testing and transmission: https://i-base.info/guides/testing/hiv-testing-feelings-of-fear-anxiety-and-guilt
Hello,
Thanks for your response.
No I don’t know his status. That’s why I’m worried…
Hi Mark, HIV is not commonly transmitted. It would be rare to become positive after one encounter. There is nothing you can do at this point aside from understand this is a low risk event. Do you know that status of this guy? It’s much more likely that he is HIV negative. Please follow this link about feelings of anxiety and fear about HIV exposure: https://i-base.info/guides/testing/hiv-testing-feelings-of-fear-anxiety-and-guilt
Hello,
I’m not sure how to post a new thread.
I’m really concerned.
I live in a part of the world where my options are very limited.
I had a sexual encounter with a man which is illegal.
I had no idea he did this. He had taken off his condom. I only knew because I felt something warm and then I turned around he was cuming all over my ass. I can’t say for 100% whether he was in me when he first cumed. This was only my second bottoming experience.
I can’t get PEP here and now I’m so worried. Is there anything I can do? I can’t stop thinking about a worse case outcome here.