Question
Can I get married if I am HIV positive?
14 January 2008. Related: All topics, Living with HIV long-term, Newly diagnosed.
Hi. Can I marry if I am HIV positive? I am only 28 male, and just diagnosed. How long I can live if I start HAART in future? Do you also think there will be more treatement options in future? Thank you
Answer
Yes, most countries have no legal obstacles against marriage, though many countries do have laws that saw you need to tell your partner about your HIV status. There are some countries where discrimination limits human rights, so it also depends where you live.
Many HIV positive men get married – to partners who are either HIV positive or HIV negative. If their partner is HIV-negative it is still possible to have children
Hi Mery,
As your partner is undetectable, the risks are close to zero. Please see the PARTNER study:
http://i-base.info/htb/30108
I made love with a man who is HIV postie. His viral load is undetectable. We had unprotected sex. Am I infected?
Hi Tracy,
Being HIV positive is no reason why you can not marry or have children. Lots of HIV positive people do. If you are wanting to start a family, its important that you are on treatment. It is being on treatment that will reduce the risk of transmission to your baby. And if you husband to be is negative, also them.
I’m 32 HIV positive women. I want to have children and get married soon,to start family…
Hi Huny, it is great that you are moving forward and thinking about your future. I hope things go well with new relationship and that you get everything that you want to achieve. I am sorry that i-Base doesn’t run contact services. Good luck with treatment next week – you have lots of time to meet a new partner.
hi,i am 23 yrs,it’s a pity that I am positive but I want to move on with my life. I want to have a partner n family. wht cn i do? Ma boyfriend is negative, i thought he loved me but now ther are some changes to him n i wanna move on. I want a serious relationship. I am starting med next week and I want to get married hv ma family is tht possible?
Hi Pear, millions of HIV positive people still have good and long relationships – sometimes with positive people and sometimes with negative people. I am sorry that you are getting upset when your parents talk about this. Is there anyone else you can talk to. Perhaps speaking to a counsellor will help you see other options. Good luck in your search for a soul mate and I hope you find a way to be happpier soon
I am and HIV positive and I need a soul mate. Can I get married? I am 27 and am the only child of my perents and they want me too get married but don’t know that I am HIV positive. whenever then advise me to marry I cry. Please what can I do am confused?
Hi Paul, the best thing is for you both to join poz.com where you can connect there. I am sorry but i-Base is not set up to connect individuals on our site.
Hi, I am 36, HIV positive and on meds. Really want to get married. Looking for a partner to spend life positive or negative carrier. Hi, Flora, I how I get to know and connect with you? Waiting. Thanks.