Q and A


Why do my family not have HIV and I do?

I’ve been married for 12 years, HIV positive in the meantime. I have children, my family is all negative. I found out I was HIV positive this year. I had sex in 2010, then I got married in 2014. I have had no symptoms until now.


Hi, how are you doing?

I am sorry to hear that you have only just found out about your status. This does now mean you can start treatment and hopefully start to feel better soon. Have you been able to speak to a doctor since finding out you are HIV positive?

It is good to hear that your family is HIV negative. While this can be confusing, HIV is not always transmitted to every sexual partner. There are a number of factors that change how HIV is transmitted. This is further explained here.

You have mentioned symptoms, what are you experiencing? and do you know your current CD4 count and viral load?



  1. Josh Peasegood

    Hi John, do you have HIV? If you do, treatment is the best thing you can do to keep you and your family safe. Treatment for HIV is very safe and can help stop HIV spreading. Please follow this link for more information about starting HIV treatment: https://i-base.info/guides/starting

  2. jhon

    should i take treatment sir

  3. Josh Peasegood

    Hi John, it is great to hear that you are doing well. Have you come across the term Elite Controller? In these cases some people are able to live with HIV without treatment. Their body is able to suppress HIV and keep their CD4 count high.

    You mentioned that you are now experiencing symptoms?

  4. jhon

    my cd4 count 651 my varil load undetected. hiv positive 12years. completed my marriage 8years complited without treatment.


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