My partner is HIV positive…
Hi, thanks, a short question – but in 2019 there are many ways to make sure you stay HIV negative.
If your partner has an undetectable viral load on treatment, there is no risk to you. Even if you don’t use a condom. This is called U=U (undetectable = untransmittable).
You also can use PrEP – a medication you take to protect you against HIV. This is important if your partner is not on treatment. It is also close to 100% protection.
Thirdly, condoms and lube when used correctly also will give you 100% protection.
Every time you have unprotected sex you risk catching HIV, but the individual risk depends on many things, including you and your partners health, and y6ur partners viral load (level of HIV virus). The individual risk with each exposure is low, and drops to zero if your partner is on HIV treatment with an undetectable viral load.
Many couples with one partner on treatment stop using condoms in order to conceive a baby, without the negative partner catching HIV.
There are lots of very successful relationships where one partner is HIV positive and the other is HIV negative. If you want to continue the relationship, there are probably lots of things to sort out and this may take some time for both of you.
This guide has more information about ways that HIV can be transmitted.
Take time to find out other information – also try AVERT – or get back to us if you have specific questions.
This question from November 2006 was last updated in February 2019.