Question
Can I get married if I am HIV positive?
14 January 2008. Related: All topics, Living with HIV long-term, Newly diagnosed.
Hi. Can I marry if I am HIV positive? I am only 28 male, and just diagnosed. How long I can live if I start HAART in future? Do you also think there will be more treatement options in future? Thank you
Answer
Yes, most countries have no legal obstacles against marriage, though many countries do have laws that saw you need to tell your partner about your HIV status. There are some countries where discrimination limits human rights, so it also depends where you live.
Many HIV positive men get married – to partners who are either HIV positive or HIV negative. If their partner is HIV-negative it is still possible to have children
Hii
My son is positive since 2014.his viral load is undectable i m searching for profile suitable for him. He is BE electronic working as a network engineer in mnc company will u help me?
Hi Karan,
It’s great that your viral load is undetectable. This means U=U Undetectable = Untransmittable. The good news is you can marry someone who is HIV negative and have a healthy HIV negative baby. Being open with your future wife is an option that many people consider. Here is a similar Q&A about telling partners you are HIV positive.
Hi I M HIV Positive ad my viral load is i cotrol its undectablr,,,,can i marry a HIV Negative girl???
Is it legal or its criminal offence not to disclose my HIV Status before marraige…plz help
Hi Ajas,
You can try the Kerala State AIDS Control Society (KSACS). They might be able to connect you with a dating organisation.
Iam from kerala i am hiv positive i need a parner
Hi Beauty, I’m sorry you’re thinking of calling off the marriage. But spilling the milk might not hurt your fiancé. There are some good things to tell him. If you start meds it can help keep you healthy. But importantly taking meds can get your viral load test to undetectable. And that can protect him from HIV if he is negative. So the risk would be close to zero. Here is Simon answering a simliar question, he has some good ideas for how to go about telling your fiancé when you are ready.
Hi. I’m beauty…
I tested HIV positive 12years ago and I’ve not had the courage to discus it with anyone until Last year when my girlfriend knew about it. I’ve rejected a lot of proposals bcs I didn’t I want to stay away from intimate affairs…. I’m engaged now to be married soon and I don’t know my fiancé status as I am scared of going to the hospital… I guess he is negative. I fear now for the future bcs he loves me dearly and spilling the milk will hurt him.. As he has waited two years for me to accept his proposal… Although we have agreed to stay without sex till marriage. What should I do please I need help bcs I’m thinking of calling off the marriage arrangements. Up till now I’m still living healthy even when I’ve not started any medication.
Hi Yeti,
There’s no reason why you can’t have kids, nor why you can’t get married. You being positive shouldn’t be an issue.
I’ve been positive for 14 years, my CD4 is good as too is my viral load. Can I marry my boyfriend and have children?
Hi Kyllah,
Have you thought about trying to meet someone at your local HIV support group? This could be a good place to start.