Question
Can I get married if I am HIV positive?
14 January 2008. Related: All topics, Living with HIV long-term, Newly diagnosed.
Hi. Can I marry if I am HIV positive? I am only 28 male, and just diagnosed. How long I can live if I start HAART in future? Do you also think there will be more treatement options in future? Thank you
Answer
Yes, most countries have no legal obstacles against marriage, though many countries do have laws that saw you need to tell your partner about your HIV status. There are some countries where discrimination limits human rights, so it also depends where you live.
Many HIV positive men get married – to partners who are either HIV positive or HIV negative. If their partner is HIV-negative it is still possible to have children
Hi Ravi,
The short answer is, yes. You can marry someone who is HIV negative and not pass on HIV.
But you must be on HIV treatment (called ART). And your ART meds should control your HIV at levels that can’t be detected in the blood tests.
Please see this link to Undetectable = Untransmittable for lots more info.
Are you taking ART? Please let us know. And if you have access to your CD4 count and viral load results, please tell us what they are.
Hi I am HIV positive can I marry to non hiv female. And my partner infected to nahi hogi mere se
Hi Mary,
Please see this Q&A about websites to meet other people who are HIV positive.
If you’re new to meeting people online please see this checklist.
And you can also ask at your clinic if there are any support groups you can join.
Good luck and best wishes.
Mary,,am 24 years,,also am HIV+ ad I need to get a marriage also to have my family
Hi Benjamin,
It’s great that your viral load is undetectable. Are you taking HIV treatment (ART)? If so, it looks like your ART is working well.
Many HIV positive men get married – to partners who are either HIV positive or HIV negative.
However, as Simon says on this Q&A about dating without disclosure “This is a question where I can’t give an answer, just make several comments and suggestions.”
Am 45 years old and HIV Positive person. I want to get married but to reveal my status will cause me not to get married. Currently my viral load is lower thus far I tests are undetectable. Can I just go ahead dating without disclosure.
Hi Success,
The good news is that you can do just about everything.
HIV treatment is so successful that many couples get married and have children even if one is HIV positive and the other is HIV negative.
And if your partner has been taking HIV treatment (ART) and has an undetectable viral load, the risk to you is zero. Being undetectable because of ART means that HIV can not be transmitted, even if you don’t use condoms.
Please see U=U at this link.
For more info about ART please see this Introduction to ART.
I am negative and my fiance is positive what can we do
Hi Namara,
Yes, you can. Are you on HIV treatment? How’s it going? Please let us know.
Can someone positive get married,am 30